5 dating tips we've learned from The Bachelorette’s Rachel Lindsay

By Sarah Trumbley

Rachel Lindsay’s season of The Bachelorette has been one for the books, and it’s all thanks its intelligent and delightful leading lady. The 31-year-old knows what she’s doing, she prides herself on “keeping it real” and most importantly, she actually knows how to date. Watching Rachel sift through 31 guys over the past few weeks has been more than just entertaining, it’s been educational and she’s given us something that no other Bachelor/ette ever has: some really great dating advice.

Here are all the best dating tips Rachel has demonstrated during her stint as the Bachelorette:

How to be confrontational, without being emotional

When it comes to confrontation, Rachel knows what she’s doing – she is a lawyer after all. Any time she’s been faced with conflict this season, Rachel has confronted it head on with a cool, calm and collected approach, while taking full control of the situation. She doesn’t get heated and start an argument nor does she cry or shy away, she just says what needs to be said and leaves her emotions out of it.

It’s OK to be selfish

In episodes seven and eight, Rachel repeatedly admits that even though she's not used to it she “needs to be a little more selfish." It was one of the most profound statements we’ve ever heard on the show. When you’re trying to find "The One," you have to be thinking about yourself in order to find the best fit. And Rachel has reminded us of that.

How to end a relationship, the mature way

It’s not hard to be in awe of pretty much everything Rachel does, but watching her breakup with Kenny, the wrestler and single dad from Vegas, was truly inspiring. Rachel knew Kenny was struggling being away from his daughter so she sent him home in a way that was so insightful and understanding that even he said it made him fall in love with her right then and there. If you make a guy fall in love with you while breaking up with him, you know you’re doing something right.

Rachel is on the hunt for love in season 13 of The Bachelorette (Mondays, City)

Let love lead the way

Rachel has said multiple times this season that she’s “letting love lead the way” and one instance of this was when she invited Peter, the front-runner from Wisconsin, to the hot tub during a group date. Rachel didn’t care about the consequences or what the other guys might think and just let love lead the way. As a result, she got three extra hours with someone she might possibly be accepting a proposal from, which can make all the difference in the world of The Bachelorette.

How to pass the time when talking to a guy you don’t like

In the beginning stages of the season, it was always easy to tell who Rachel did and didn’t like by what kind of conversations she would have with the guys. For example, whenever there was any house drama, Rachel would only talk about it to the guys she didn’t seem to be into, like Blake E. and Lucas “Whaboom” Yancey, or Iggy and Lee, and she’d save the good, in-depth conversations for the guys she did like. The takeaway here: don’t waste all your good talking points on a guy you don’t see a future with and save the meaningful stuff for the guys you actually like.

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